GRRR Squad Forum

Very well put, Phatty.

Thank you for all speaking your mind on the matter. I didn't realise I was worth it Sorry for disappointing you in the way I am trying to manage things. I am desperately trying to do what it right and it seems I am not doing a very good job of it at the moment.

Would it be fair to request a week that I can make up my mind finally?

Edit: This is purely my own decision, so please don't be angry at Mark at all. He doesn't want me to leave. I just don't know what else to do so its me, I am trying to do the right thing because I stuffed up. And to put your minds at rest: Mark has afforded me tons of freedom to find myself and just be. I am the one who is battling to figure out whats what in life. So please don't worry about me, k?

Much better idea, Onny.

Of course, take what ever time you need.

I have to agree with Phatty, Phatty cakes is so smart and always so right. . . .

I must admit, I respond harshly, always have to bad news. So perhaps I am going a little over the Top with my reaction above, but as Phats has said, the decision is ultimately yours and I will support whatever you decide. I just won't necessarily or even vaguely pretend to be happy about it tho

Anyway, remember that we all love our Nursey too much to just set her free mkay? Not wiffart a tussle

Take as long as you need, Onny. As has been said before, we're here for you as and when you're ready.

Onyx wrote:Would it be fair to request a week that I can make up my mind finally?

That a week, take a month, take a year, you will always be welcome here and will be welcomed backed with open arms

Thanks

Dragonne wrote:Some time in December (IIRC), there were a bunch of us playing together on a server, and on the grrr TS channel. At the time, you weren’t playing, it was just Mark and three grrrbians in a squad. Shortly thereafter, a fourth grrrbian joined the team, and Sheri asked Mark very politely if he would mind leaving the squad so that the four of us could squad together and get some practice in. Mark complied, and we carried on with our gaming. Shortly thereafter Mark quit the game and the TS channel.

This is what Mark's feelings are so maybe try to understand and see where I am coming from regardless if you think he overreacted:

He had been playing with the guys for weeks and having a great time. Sheri and Lep joined. Their side was getting owned. Mark was asked to leave the squad and felt unhappy about it so he left Mumble. Nobody said or did anything immediately to perhaps sort the matter out straightaway? (Sheri did phone much later but because Mark was still too upset/hurt and I, mistakenly, never suggested she try phone again the next day to apologise when he had calmed down.) Daz was the only one who apologised. Nobody else felt the need to enquire as to why Mark isn't on Mumble anymore. So now he feels he is not welcome anymore and would rather not be on Mumble than be asked to leave a squad and feel he is in the way.

I understand how he must've felt and I understand the feeling he must've experienced to something that wasn't nice when he was under the impression he was welcome. I need to support him in his unhappiness and hope you guys have more insight into how he felt when it happened? How we feel and how things are are sometimes not the same thing and I just want him to be happy when he joins the grrr's in battle. He always has such a great time.

My greatest wish is for everybody to be happy and friends again and just get along.

Hi Ony

please do not take my silence in this regard as neglect or rejection, you and I both know the troubles we have seen and been through. I would like to apologise for instances of quietness as I felt any interference may be taken the wrong way.

Specifically in this last case - and I forget how many where on TS when Daz and I discussed this, but he was the gentlman this time and offered to speak to Mark. How many people would it have taken to calm/soothe Mark? I also do not believe anything is your fault and would like to re-itterate our support for you, your feelings and your decisions. I would feel very sad if you felt that you had to leave but I do understand you reasonings.

Please take as long as you need, our favourite nurse.

Onny, jis maar dit maak my hart seer om oor so n ding te praat. Asb verskoom my sleg Afr... I've been reading the forums today on this topic, totally shocked, and I hoped somehow you'd change your mind.

It's not Mark getting in the way, it's just trying to get the DFL team to play together. Ons wil net so erg beter doen, dis heeltemal nie persoonlik nie en daai tyd is verby. Nou dat die Nutz span sal nie DGL speel nie, daar is baie mense wat sonder n span is en wat wil saam met ander mense speel - hy was nie en sal nooit in die pad wees nie.

You're such a wonderful person, I'm so sad to see you go. I know your spot is always here for you, asb moenie ons vergeet nie. I hope your troubles are resolved sometime soon and you will come back to us - truly, we will miss you both.